Just as someone can choose to believe a lie, something does not need to be believed to be true.
Lie that I often believe: I am a pathetic mom. I am no better than my mother or my upbringing.
Truth: I am a good mom. My kids are loved and well cared for. I seldom react to them without first thinking my response through. I usually react completely different than my upbringing. When I do react wrongly, this is a moment, not a lifestyle. Though it does not need to be overlooked, neither does it need to be magnified. What I feel and think in the midst of a moment does not carry as much weight as what I do. When I am angry, and do not yell, the anger does not make me a bad mom. I am a good mom.